A very sweet friend and client of mine uttered these words with a shrug of her shoulders when I asked where she wanted her guestbook table to be.
“I’m excited for this day and the details of it, but none of it is as important as my marriage,” she continued.
She wasn't sweating the small stuff. It didn't matter what the groom’s father wore or what her send-off car was.
And that's when I realized what all of you perfect soon-to-be brides needed to read most.
I know it's been a while since I've written on here, but if I'm being honest, I've been putting this off since my last post. It's not because I don't have any content or any tips that I can share, but because I felt like it needed to hold more weight than “should you do a unity candle or unity sand?”.
As a little (more) background on me, God is a LARGE part of my life, and when I took this job and fell in love with it the way I did, I knew it was because He had a great purpose for me in this role.
I couldn't understand why I felt this post was supposed to be more meaningful than the topics I was coming up with. I tried to push past it, but I couldn't shake the feeling for the life of me. Then it hit me like a ton of bricks; it was because God was trying to speak to me, and I just didn't want to listen.
So the message that I want you to hear is: take a step back and breathe.
Every part of your wedding planning is all part of the journey. Your engagement season is just as special and important as your wedding day.
Often, I see that it's easy to get caught up in the planning process and the small tiny details. Next thing you know, you're worried about if it's normal for you to use a bag or pins for your money dance.
And I'm here to tell you: IT DOESN’T MATTER.
Let me re-phrase that: nothing matters as much as you just enjoying this time. This is supposed to be a fun day! Just stop, close your eyes and take a breath. Think about this journey so far. Think about what it has taught you. Think about the fun times you have had. Think of the memories you've made with the ones you love. Think about all the beautiful venues you've seen. Think of all the delicious cakes you tried with your fiancé.
Just do not miss this, and remember to not sweat the small things. At the end of the day, you're going to be married to the love of your life, and is that not the most important part? Because no matter if it rains or if you are running late to your ceremony, your vendors and your family and friends are going to make sure that you are married by the end of it. That's what you originally came here to do anyways.
All the tiny things that go wrong are going to be funny memories the next day. All the vendors or decorations you couldn't get were just leading you to the vendors or decorations you were meant to have this whole time.
This is a celebration of your love for one another and your commitment to each other. That's the most beautiful part of it. Try not to get caught up in the craziness of the planning and wanting everything to be totally immaculate. I promise, you will drive yourself insane.
So just breathe and go kiss your fiancé.